Know Thy Feelings: Working with The Moon

There’s a quote you’ve probably heard:

“Know thyself.”

It’s one of the oldest spiritual instructions in the book. But in a world that’s always shouting over our inner voice, it’s easier said than done.

So how do we do it? How do we come to know ourselves as living, feeling, evolving beings?

We begin by noticing how we feel.

Not how we should feel.

Not how we want others to think we feel.

But how we actually feel.

And that’s where The Moon comes in.

🌒 The Moon and the Wisdom of Feeling

In astrology, the Moon rules the emotional body. She reflects our moods, our needs, our instincts, our habits, our longings and the parts of us that feel soft, vulnerable, and unseen. She is our inner world.

Your Moon sign in your birth chart describes how you relate to emotion:

• What you need to feel safe.

• What nurtures you.

• How you respond when life hits a tender spot.

• Whether you reach for comfort, or withdraw, or explode, or freeze.

Some people are naturally attuned to their inner landscape. Others were never taught how to be with their feelings and maybe even learned to distrust them.

But whether we’re aware of them or not, our feelings are always speaking.

The Moon teaches us to listen.

🌀 Why Feeling is the Way In

We often think healing starts in the mind. That if we just understand something, we’ll be able to fix it.

But most of what shapes us lives deeper than the mind. Our patterns. Our fears. Our longings. They live in the body. And the body speaks through emotion.

Most of us were taught, whether directly or subtly, that emotions were something to get over or get past. We were told to stop crying, to calm down, to be quiet. We learned that anger made us bad, sadness made us weak, and fear made us too much. From a very young age, we were trained to suppress. To smile when we didn’t feel safe. To stay silent when something hurt. To pretend we were fine when we absolutely weren’t.

And we did it because we had to. Because love, care, and survival often depended on it. Because being accepted felt safer than being authentic.

And so began the journey of avoiding our feelings.

But those feelings didn’t go anywhere.

All our pain and trauma, our disappointment, shame, grief, and rage, it doesn’t disappear just because we don’t talk about it. It lives in the body. In the nervous system. In the tissues. In the emotional, mental, and spiritual layers of our being. Whether the conscious mind remembers or not, the body does.

This is why the Moon is such a powerful guide.

She helps us feel what we’ve pushed down.

And She reminds us that we can only move forward by first being where we are.

In any real healing journey, there’s no skipping steps. We have to acknowledge what is. We have to allow the sadness, the rage, the heartbreak, the fear. We have to make space for those long-held feelings to be felt — fully, honestly, safely — so that something new can enter.

Because until we’ve done that, until we’ve met those deeper layers, we’ll keep recreating the same experience. Even when life offers us something new, we may not be able to receive it. Not because we’re broken, but because we’re still expecting the old wound to be re-opened.

To change the story, we have to feel the one we’re still carrying.

🌗 The Moon is Always Moving — and So Are You

One of the most beautiful things about working with the Moon is that She doesn’t stay stuck. She moves through the whole zodiac every month, spending 2–3 days in each sign. As She travels, She touches different parts of your chart and activates different emotional themes.

Some days you’ll feel steady. Other days, tender. Some days, irritable or raw or nostalgic for no clear reason.

That’s not you being “too emotional.” That’s you being attuned to something ancient and real. That’s the Moon moving through your life.

When we begin to track this — to notice how we feel on different days and compare that with where the Moon is — we start to see patterns. We learn that we’re not broken. We’re cyclical. Like the tides. Like the seasons. Like the Moon Herself.

🌕 Your Natal Moon and Your Personal Blueprint

Your natal Moon — the Moon sign and house placement you were born with — tells you a lot about your emotional world. It’s your emotional fingerprint.

Are you a Moon in Aries person who needs independence to feel safe? A Moon in Pisces soul who feels the pain of others as your own? A Moon in Capricorn who struggles to let emotion show, but feels everything just as deeply?

Where She sits in your chart (the house) tells you where these emotional patterns tend to show up — in your home, your relationships, your work, your family dynamics.

To learn more about your natal Moon by sign and house read this.

And just like a tide that always returns to shore, the Moon returns to Her own sign in your chart each month. That moment is like a mini emotional reset — a coming home to yourself.

Tracking your monthly lunar return (when the Moon returns to the same sign and degree She was in when you were born) can be incredibly revealing. Over time, you’ll see themes. You’ll start to understand how your emotions move, how to support them, and how to ride the wave rather than getting tossed around.

🌑 Why This Matters

So often, we think we need to do more to change our lives.

But what if the real work is to feel more?

To slow down enough to notice what’s alive in us — and to trust that those feelings are part of a deeper wisdom trying to guide us.

Feelings are not a weakness. They are not a distraction. They are feedback. And when we learn to feel without being overwhelmed, without numbing, without running — we begin to heal. We begin to integrate. We begin to know ourselves.

That’s why this work matters.

Because when you know yourself, you stop abandoning yourself. And when you stop abandoning yourself, you begin to live in alignment with the truth of who you are.

🌙 An Invitation

You can start this work anytime.

All you need is a little curiosity and the willingness to listen.

Start by noticing how you feel each day. Track the Moon’s sign. See what comes up.

Ask: What part of me is being stirred right now? What might this feeling be pointing to?

If you don’t know your natal Moon or your rising sign, I’d love to help.

💌 Send me your birth details (date, time, and place) and I’ll send you a picture of your chart and a short overview to get you started.

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Astrology isn’t here to tell you who you are. It’s here to help you remember.

Let’s follow the Moon home.

A note on AI & my writing:

I use ChatGPT as a writing assistant—not as a writer. These are my thoughts, ideas, and words, shaped by my lived experience and deep love for self-work, self-awareness, the spiritual journey, and astrology. AI helps me refine, structure, and nudge me toward better phrasing, but the voice you’re reading is mine. I use it as a tool to help me put into words everything I believe is valuable in sharing my insights. Honesty matters to me, and this is simply one way I bring my thoughts to life.