The truth of the matter is that we don't. And being attached to the idea that they will is another block in the journey that will keep you stuck.
There are no certainties in life.
"The only unchangeable certainty in life is that nothing is unchangeable or certain."
John F. Kennedy
No one is able to predict the future, including whether or not your twin will return to you (no matter how psychic someone is, or how much money you throw at the question).
Relationships, even those which are deeply significant and spiritual in nature, can be influenced by various factors, including personal growth, timing, and individual choices.
What is much more important to focus on, is your well-being and personal growth.
Believing that your happiness solely depends on someone else's return will keep you stuck.
We cannot know if our Twin Flame will return.
We may or may not be delusional.
What if learning this is a part of what the Twin Flame Journey is all about?
This is the journey of life: We lose those we love and we can't imagine how we'll move on and find happiness again. We feel as if we have lost a part of ourselves and will be incomplete forevermore. Every single human being is facing an unknown. We have to find peace in that truth. We have to learn to trust that the love that is meant for us will return in one form or another. We can't hold onto the past. We don't know the future. We just have to find a way to be comfortable in the present with what is. And know that this, as it is, is enough.
How do we achieve this?
How do we let them go and choose ourselves instead?
The Power of Acceptance
If we desire change in our current circumstances, first we must accept what is:
𝟭 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹. You love them. You want a relationship with them. Their absence is the most painful thing you’ve ever experienced. You are angry. You are frightened. You are confused. You are delighted. You are grateful. All your feelings are valid. All your feelings are acceptable.
𝟮 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲. The twin flame concept is nuts (let’s face it). Believing you are uniquely tied to another person is crazy. Believe it anyway. This needs to be embodied. The world will show you what you believe by reflecting it back to you. If you have any doubt then others will doubt you. When you’ve embodied it, if you tell someone you are a twin flame and have met your twin they will believe you without question. Work your way through the layers of disbelief and doubt you hold within and let the world show you how you’re getting on with it.
𝟯 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗜𝗦. THIS IS KEY Accept how things are (really accept - be brutally honest with yourself - don’t pretend to yourself that he really likes you if his actions and words say differently). Accept that they are gone and that this may be the end of that connection. Accept that you cannot know the future, you cannot change the past, and the present as you see it is real. We live in multiple realities and accepting the reality of this one is key to changing it. This will be painful. That’s okay. Until we grieve and heal the pain of this reality we cannot create a new one.
𝟰 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝗶𝗴𝗴𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂r 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗹. You can control your behaviour and your actions. You can take control of your self and do the work needed to bring yourself back to your true essence. Bring all your focus to yourself and show yourself the love and attention you deserve. Let go of trying to control everything else. Have faith that it is being taken care of and conserve all of your energy for you. You need it.
𝟱 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲 𝗚𝗢𝗢𝗗. Have faith. Essentially you can encapsulate SURRENDER by saying let go and let God but saying that and actually being able to embody that is a leap. Break it down into smaller steps and work on one step at a time.
Moving on from a Significant Relationship
Accept your emotions: It's okay to feel sad, hurt, or angry. Allow yourself to experience these emotions without judgment. Accepting your feelings is an important step in the healing process.
Give yourself time: Healing takes time, and everyone progresses at their own pace. Be patient with yourself and understand that moving on is a gradual process.
Set boundaries: If possible, establish clear boundaries with your ex-partner. This may include limiting contact or taking a break from communication to give both of you space to heal.
Focus on self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, whether it's spending time with friends, pursuing hobbies, or practicing self-care routines.
Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide a listening ear and emotional support. Talking about your feelings can be therapeutic and help you gain perspective.
Reflect on the relationship: Understand what you learned from the relationship and the breakup. Identify any patterns or behaviours that may have contributed to the end of the relationship.
Set new goals: Focus on personal growth and set new goals for yourself. Whether it's related to your career, education, or personal interests, having new objectives can help shift your focus.
Create a support system: Surround yourself with positive influences. Spend time with friends and family who uplift and support you during this challenging time.
Consider professional help: If you find it challenging to cope with the emotions on your own, seeking the help of a therapist or counsellor can provide valuable insights and coping strategies.
Forgive and let go: Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning the actions that led to the breakup, but it allows you to release the emotional burden and move forward. Letting go is a gradual process, and it's essential for your own well-being.
Embracing being single and doing the self work
Being single and focusing on self-work and self-love can transform how you feel and experience your reality. Here's how:
Self-awareness: Being single allows you the time and space to reflect on your own values, desires, and goals. This self-awareness is crucial for understanding what you truly want and need in a relationship, leading to better compatibility with a future partner.
Personal growth: During your single period, you have the opportunity to invest time and energy in personal development. This can involve acquiring new skills, pursuing hobbies, and working on aspects of yourself that contribute to a more well-rounded and confident individual.
Emotional independence: Developing emotional independence is vital for a healthy relationship. Being single provides the chance to cultivate a strong sense of self and emotional well-being, reducing the likelihood of relying on a partner for validation or happiness.
Establishing boundaries: Use this time to understand and communicate your personal boundaries effectively. Learning what you're comfortable with and what you need in a relationship will contribute to healthier dynamics when you do enter into a new partnership.
Healing from past relationships: Being single can offer the space needed to heal from past heartbreaks and learn from past relationship experiences. This healing process is essential for entering a future relationship with a fresh perspective and a more open heart.
Increased self-esteem: Practicing self-love and self-care boosts your self-esteem and self-worth. When you feel good about yourself, you are more likely to attract positive and healthy relationships.
Reduced co-dependency: Taking time for self-work allows you to break free from co-dependent patterns. You'll learn to prioritize your own well-being, which is crucial for maintaining a balanced and fulfilling relationship in the future.
Clear relationship goals: Use your time as a single person to clarify what you want in a relationship and what your long-term goals are. This clarity will guide your choices and actions when you're ready to enter a new relationship.
Attracting the right partner: When you've invested in your own growth and well-being, you're more likely to attract a partner who is also committed to personal development. Healthy individuals tend to form healthier relationships.
Enjoying your own company: Learning to enjoy your own company and finding fulfilment independently makes you less dependent on a relationship for happiness. This contributes to a more balanced and positive approach to future partnerships.
Remember that this is journey of freedom. The journey of self-discovery and personal development is a process and it takes time. Taking the time to invest in yourself sets the foundation for a more fulfilling and satisfying future relationship.
Find peace in the unknown and cultivate an amazing life for yourself in the here and now.
For more on Surrender:
Looking for support?
Comments